Wednesday, July 31, 2013

We are surviving.

The days (and nights) really have been a blur.  Between Arie and Luke waking up, we still aren't getting very much sleep. 

Arie is still waking up crying every time he wakes up, and that started with when I was in labor and couldn't get to him right away. Even when he sleeps right next to me, he still cries when he wakes up. 

Naps are pretty much non existent because Luke wakes as soon as I set him down, so I can't get Arie to nap. Very rarely do both boys nap at the same time. 

Yesterday, when Jack got home from work, Luke was sleeping on me and Jack took Arie while the workers replaced our back gutter and did some soffit work. I was able to get the most glorious nap laying down with Luke for about an hour. 

I met an old high school friend at the park yesterday morning and as we were chatting about child spacing, she said the most profound thing, "we trust God with every part of our life in our culture... Except our fertility." 

We obviously feel that way, allowing God to choose whether or not we have children and have complete control over the timing. 

It was refreshing to find someone with similar convictions and be able to chat about it. 

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Tandem Baby Wearing

Night weaning?

I've always said I wanted to do baby led weaning. To me that means that I started offering Arie solids when he started showing interest. I have always nursed him on demand and never limited it. He nurses as much as he wants around the clock. 

Lately I am thinking about night weaning. I never thought I would do that. 

Who knows if I really will, it's just difficult to nurse both babies at night. 

Monday, July 15, 2013

One Month Update

One Month Update

  • Cloth Diapering
    • Daily diaper laundry! I really wish that I had a second washing machine.  Still haven't slowed down on washing, and the busier I get each day, the less likely that ill have time to actually stuff the diapers before they're about to go on a bum. 
    • Medium sized wet bags only cut it if the trip out of the house is 2 hours or less. 
    • I think I might do a check list of how many diapers we change of Arie & Luke just to guess how much money we are saving by cloth diapering. 
  • Tandem Breastfeeding
    • Still leaking quite a bit. 
    • My supply is keeping up just fine with two nursing on demand. Between the two, I don't go more than two hours in between. 
    • Arie and Luke are visibly fattening up... Luke went from 7lbs 6.9oz at birth to 9lbs 6oz last night. Arie has also had a growth spurt. 

    • I'm pretty stinking amazed at my body and ability to breastfeed two kids!
    • I have felt like a circus act more than once while juggling both. People are genuinely curious about how 2 nursing works. 
    • I'm getting better at nursing both at the same time. It makes for less stressful situations!

  • Sleep
    • LOL.  What sleep?
    • No, seriously.
    • The lack of sleep is catching up with me and I get grouchy. 
    • Arie goes slightly longer than Luke between feeding at night. I definitely wish that Arie was a more independent sleeper! 
    • Arie knows what "all done" means and he will unlatch if I say that, which is nice so the nursing doesn't drag on and on. 
  • Home life - House stuff
    • The lawn needs to be mowed. 
    • There's two weeks worth of unsorted mail on the kitchen table. 
    • At least all of the bills are getting paid on time. 
    • I really wish I had a maid or daily housekeeper. I would love my house to be spotless, but it's not. And I'm dealing. 
    • I actually baked something in the past week!
    • I spoke too soon. I have been too busy to keep up on housework and having too many house guests in one week is overwhelming. 
  • Going Out and About
    • Luke hates his car seat. After a hellish mall trip today, I ordered his convertible seat in one of the parking lots I stopped in to calm him down on the way home. Hopefully that helps. 
    • I grocery shopped with both boys by myself this past week. 
    • I could not wrap them both fast enough. It was a success in that I actually shopped and I got it all unloaded and put away at home. It took me hours and hours to do all of it, but it got done. 
    • I am still trying to figure out the best baby wearing solution for out and about. Today, I wore Luke and Arie rode in the stroller. 
    • I'm churning through wraps attempting to figure out the best solution. 
      Tried this wrap conversion mei tai and it was not everything I dreamed so I sold it and bought the wrap instead. Hopefully I get quicker at wrapping, I'm sure I will with more practice! 

  • Postpartum Recovery
    • I'm feeling physically back to normal except that I feel very fluffy. 
    • I'm 7lbs above pre-pregnancy weight with Luke. I have a bit of a muffin top left in my size 8s and the size 10's are large enough to discreetly hide my holster inside my waist band for concealed carry. 
    • I think it's time to start thinking about my real postpartum weight loss goals. I have about 40lbs that I would still like to lose, which I'm sure is completely do able. Maybe I should just sit back and see what happens. By having to be dairy & soy free, my diet consists of only healthy food.  
  • Brotherly Love
    • Arie kisses all over Luke when he's in a good mood. 
    • Arie pats Luke while Luke is on my shoulder and Arie is nursing. He also seems to want to show Luke things and share with him. 

  • Marriage 
    • We are in survival mode trying to stay on top of the housework, caring for the animals and caring for the boys. Neither of us are quite ready to get back in the saddle again ;) 

Saturday, July 13, 2013

3 Weeks Old

Lukey I can't believe you're already three weeks old!

We are still in survival mode here at home. Daddy seems to be doing better than me, but both of us aren't getting very much sleep. Luke wakes every two hours or so to eat & be changed and Arie still wakes up every few hours too. 

Luke is more alert every day and is getting so big! 

He gets cuter every day. 

People say that he looks just like Arie. 

He's growing our of his newborn clothes. There are already some PJs that no longer fit! 

I think I need to go through and see what clothes I need to take out of the closet. 

Luke is wearing some 0-3 sleepers now. 

Aunt Liz came to visit, so Luke has now met all of his Aunts and Uncles. 

Tandem Breastfeeding is going just fine. 

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Sharing a room

Both boys sharing our room is more frustrating than I could have imagined. Luke is a squeaker and grunter and I'm always super paranoid about him waking up Arie. 

I got more sleep than usual last night, but I think today is a coffee day still. 

I cleaned the house so nicely on Monday, and then Tuesday and Wednesday mornings I had play dates and now my house is thoroughly trashed. 

It's stressful for me to not have my house cleaned because I know it stresses Jack out a lot. It bugs me too. 

This morning I plan to go to the chiropractor and the grocery store when the boys wake up. 

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Do I jinx it?

Luke seems to go to sleep for the night around 8pm. 

He will wake to nurse every 2 hours still, but he doesn't stay up in between. 

If only Arie was good about bed time. 

Saturday, July 6, 2013

Making it through

It seems like I probably won't be writing much more than really random updates any more.

We are 3 weeks and 1 day into having two babies.

So maybe I should do a bullet style update:

  • Cloth Diapering
    • Daily diaper laundry! I really wish that I had a second washing machine.  Yesterday, I spent the day dedicated to catching up on all of my laundry and then at the end of the day, I threw the diaper laundry in.  A lot of days, I wash first thing in the morning and then throw the diapers in before I go to bed too to start the wash cycle over night and then be able to do the different cycles as I get up and nurse the boys throughout the night. 
    • Today is going to be the first day that I'm actually going to sun the diapers at all.  Because of how often I'm doing diaper laundry, I just don't have time to have the diapers out on the line... Maybe I won't throw them out on the line... Just don't have time lol
    • It's really no big deal to have 2 in diapers and cloth diapers at that.  I can't imagine the massive amount of money we would be spending on diapers if we didn't use cloth diapers.
  • Tandem Breastfeeding
    • My nipples/breasts are no longer sore at all.
    • I'm still leaking and it's pretty crazy.
    • Arie and Luke are visibly fattening up and if I start to think about nursing, my boobs will leak. Absolutely no supply issues whatsoever.
    • I'm pretty stinking amazed at my body and ability to breastfeed two kids!
    • I'm really really happy that I stuck it out through pregnancy to be able to nurse two, Arie is no where close to be ready to be weaned.
    • It's a juggling act if both of them need to nurse while we are out and about. Arie doesn't understand waiting his turn at all.
    • I think people think I'm a huge freak for breastfeeding two kids at once.  It wasn't until I had Luke that I really felt like people thought Arie was way too old to be nursing still.  He's only a year old... I am still happy with the decision to be nursing him.
    • Sometimes I find it very frustrating dealing with two crying babies, since neither of them understand that the other also has needs.  I really am praying for more patience. 
  • Sleep
    • LOL.  What sleep?
    • No, seriously.
    • Just kidding... bed time usually starts between 6-8, depending on what time Arie actually took a nap that day.  Bath time is after dinner and then the rocking process starts.  We have started to have some success with me nursing Arie until he decides he's done and then if he doesn't fall asleep on me, or if Luke is ready right away for me to nurse, we switch off and Jack takes Arie and I take Luke in the other room.  Jack will rock Arie to sleep and then they will get in bed.  I pop in and out of the room at night to nurse and change Luke.  
    • Luke seems to have the night time is when we sleep thing down.  He rarely stays up too long after nursing at night now.  I change him probably every 4 hours or so at night.  He seems to be waking every 2 hours to nurse, almost on the dot!  
    • Arie now knows how to safely get out of our bed, so we need to put a gate up on our bedroom door instead of keeping the door closed and it's no longer as stressful to put Arie to sleep and then leave the room while he's sleeping.  
  • Home life - House stuff
    • The lawn certainly doesn't get mowed as much as it did.  Jack is still finding time to be able to get vehicles fixed when they break, even if it means that he has Arie out in the garage with him in the stroller or something, just hanging out.  
    • Every few days, I get a burst of time where both Luke and Arie will cooperate and I can power through the cleaning.  The floors definitely need a little more loving on the scrubbing aspect, but almost daily they get swept or vacuumed or both.  So I'm kinda satisfied with how well I've been doing with housework with two small babies. 
    • The dishes don't back up too badly, Jack and I have been doing really well with that.  Probably better than we were before we had kids at all! 
    • I feel up to having company again! I had play dates this past week and they went just fine! I was so nervous thinking about how exhausting it would be to clean up before and after having company but it wasn't that big of a deal.
  • Going Out and About
    • Luke hates his car seat too.  That babytrend car seat is cursed or something.  He doesn't immediately fall asleep and you can just see how uncomfortable he is from the minute you put him in.  I hate that car seat so much.  I hated it so much with Arie too, we switched him to the convertible seat at about 4 months because I hated it so much.  I don't know if I need to wait it out to try to make it a little easier on myself to contain the two of them since I hate strollers so much... I have no idea what to do.
    • My first outing by myself with both boys was this past week on Monday to the post office and back.  It was no big deal! 
    • I also went to my first La Leche League meeting on Tuesday morning.  It was a juggle to get both boys into the meeting and back out with all the crap that I carry with me, but it was AWESOME using my ergo.  I put Arie on my back with the Ergo and then carried Luke in the infant car seat in one hand and the diaper bag in the other, with my purse slung over my shoulder. 
  • Postpartum Recovery
    • I'm no longer bleeding as of today! And I think my stitches are healed... Not ready for "normal" activity yet... but mostly that's because of exhaustion, not that I'm not physically ready.
    • I'm 21 lbs down since delivery and I'm 9 lbs above prepregnancy weight.  I'm looking forward to that number continuing to go down... I'm 40lbs above my long term goal and I really wouldn't be surprised if I could lose 40lbs by the fall.  After Arie was born, I lost 85lbs in 6 months and then I got pregnant again... So, 40lbs is going to be no big deal in 4ish months time.  I'm really looking forward to this! 
    • I feel like I can no longer justify the weekly trips to the Chiropractor, I just want to save the money... but of course my body isn't ready to give that up yet with all of my hormones still regulating.
    • No baby blues at all.  I swear breastfeeding seems to be my anti-baby blues secret.  And breastfeeding two must be like super anti baby blues. 
  • Brotherly Love
    • Luke has no idea who anyone is but me... yet.
    • Arie seems to really enjoy kissing Luke.  I don't think he minds sharing at all, as long as I can make room on my lap for him, he's good.  Or if he wants to be held, as long as I am carrying both of them, he's happy.  
  • Marriage
    • I really appreciate Jack so much more now.  I am loving watching him get closer with Arie and have a bond that he didn't have before.  I love watching him with Luke too where I feel more confident and more comfortable to let Jack help a lot more than I did with Arie, so watching him carry Luke upstairs and listening to Luke cry as he's getting his diaper changed isn't even a fraction as stressful as it was when Arie was a newborn.